The starting point for therapy is that you should focus your attention on yourself. On your emotions. On your past. On your interior life.
In truth; for almost all people who have the kind of problems which therapy claims to address the one thing they need to do is forget themselves. Get over themselves. Don’t worry about themselves all the time. Just get on with it – doubts and anxieties and all. Excessive self-preoccupation is the problem. You can’t base the resolution of your problems on the basis of the problem.
Built into therapy, as its founding rock, is a principal which will effectively block any possible resolution of the client’s problems…